Courtship rituals
Nicole posted this the other day, but because I can’t see videos when at work it took me a few days to watch it. It really is lovely. This is the sort of documentary that set me on the path I went down studying wildlife ecology.
It’s a pity humans didn’t have such beautiful, definite rituals, so we’d all know what was happening. Well, perhaps we do, in an ideal world. But reality often looks more like some kind of clumsy staggering and colliding and toe-squashing mess. Nathan wrote a post recently along these lines. I didn’t link to it at the time because it seemed to be irrelevant to me and almost every girl I know, but apparently there do exist girls out there who get asked to do things individually with guys ... and they don’t understand. If that’s you, then read along. But all I can say in defense of single women is, if you’re a guy, make sure you have actually made a real effort, taken initiative and been unambiguous about asking before you consider yourself the victim. Most girls I know, myself included, view themselves as being quite at the mercy of guys, waiting to see whether they’ll ask them out or not, or define the situation. [And I just deleted the rest of my ramblings on the subject ...]