More on friendship

Well, so far my post about friendship in your thirties has had more readers than any post ever I think, and couple of links (for some reason George’s link isn’t showing up – I don’t understand how that works), and people say it resonates for them. That’s comforting. Infact the Seinfeld episode is comforting. It lets me, and others, know that we just one of many “victims” (I don’t like the victim mentality, and endeavour to avoid it, but will use the word here) of a widespread phenomena, and destroys that “myth of chronic uniqueness” (great phrase I found on this blog). Other’s share our plight. And it shows that people are not mean, or nasty, or deliberately exclusive, or targeting you to leave out of friendship circles, and they don’t (necessarily!) dislike you – they might even think you’re nice, and have potential (cf Seinfeld), they just don’t have current vacancies. I don’t know the solution, but I think perhaps awareness is a big part of it. If you are in your thirties, and find yourself looking for new friends, beware: it might be hard to truly break your way into existing circles. And if you are in your thirties and think you have enough good friends, well, maybe you could reconsider: move some of the furniture, build an extension (or, if I stick with the other analogy, create a new position) ...

Anyway, when I got another middle-ear infection I told myself I had to “eat properly” and not start cooking like a bachelor (we do our own thing in the new place), so I’m going to go stir tuna and sweet chilli sauce through two-minute noodles! (Well, hey, I figure it’s Saturday night ...)