A postscript

I have considered taking the previous post down, just because it was something of a wild card and appears to be open to misinterpretation. But, I have concluded that is one of the risks of blogging and if readers take a different angle they can comment and I can then respond. It is, however, not a topic on which I would like to be misunderstood - but neither is one I'd particularly like to elaborate on! Just watch the movie :). But, in simple clarification, I don't believe in sex outside of marriage, and I don't believe in quitting your marriage. Those are non-negotiables. That is why I enjoyed this film. Because neither of those two things ultimately happen. The fact that the two characters have feelings for each other is just that: a fact. That occurs. But, given that that is the situation, it's the choices that you make and what you do with those feelings that counts. And that is where "the girl" does the right thing. In the end she makes the decision to work on her marriage, despite the fact that "there is such distance between me and him" and she feels that she is "letting [her]self down in satisfying [him]" and she thinks he's an "idiot". Perhaps she meant it when she vowed "for better or for worse". (And I found that quite extraordinary in a contemporary secular film!)

Neither would I recommend that women initiate conversations along the lines of "I don't think it's a good idea for us to have sex now". That wouldn't be a wise thing to do. What I appreciated about the interaction detailed below is that the girl rightly assesses the situation, and avoids it - and that she rightly values sex.