What women really want #2

Nicole has put up a little post in response to the post by Wendy that I linked to yesterday, and you should go and read her comments. I was shooting from the mouth yesterday without doing any research (and I took down most of my post last night, because I thought it was a bit of spontaneous over-sharing that I didn’t really want to leave on the world wide web) and I will have to look into this more. For me, Wendy’s points of application rang very true, but that is probably doing things backwards. And I do agree with Soph’s comment on my post below that I think a woman’s fundamental longing is to be loved (and not to control/dominate).

Perhaps the tension there is then between the pre-fall and post-fall way of things. That is, it would seem to me that women have an innate longing for love (and protection and care etc), in the same way men have an innate longing for respect, that I assume is part of the pre-fall design of the sexes (though that isn't in Genesis, it's more in places like Ephesians 5). After the curse women may then have a perverse tendency to want to usurp and control, if that interpretation is correct, but I wonder if the former is still deeper (and also affected by the fall), such that often the real and most fundamental problem in relationships lies there, rather than in the latter; ie, it may be playing out that women are after control, but underneath that is actually driven by some perception about love (or protection/provision), such that what we need to do is work harder to connect the two. But I am just wondering outloud without looking into it ...